'But I'm Not Attractive Enough to Get Great Women'
'But I'm Not Attractive Enough to Get Great Women'
by chetram nagar
I want to talk about something that weAll have ... that little voice inside our headsLoves to 'converse'GOOD ENOUGH
The issue of WHAT OTHER PEOPLE is a bigIssue a lot of guys, and it ends up with mostOUT of doingThe things we really want to do
JustifyCruelly-perfect standards of bodily perfection,Men feel anxiety about issues like masculinity,Wit, and strength And in particular ... theAbility to be ENTERTAINING and FUNNY
There's talk about thisNeed - to showcase a razor-sharp witEngage in the kind of verbal-swordplay'One-upmanship' that a lot of guys like to foolAround with
To a certain extent, mass consumption ofPopular comedy, and the growing popularity ofMale comedians, are largely to blame for thisUnwelcome phenomenon
And it's even gotten to the stage where I'mGetting emails from guys admitting that they 'justDo not bother anymore 'trying to impress women,Because they've got the impression that femaleStandards are now
Can anybody say ... LOW SELF-CONFIDENCE?
Having said that, though, I will admmit thatThey have a point True confidence comes,After all, from accomplishments and achievementAnd if you do not have a lotOf 'what you've done', you can left twiddlingYour thumbs and wondering whether you want toBother 'competing' for the desirable women outThere
Unfortunately, this kind of thinking isLiterally a vicious cycle The moment that youGetting StartedThe moment that you start to broadcastInsecurity to anyone in the vicinity ... and ofCourse, that's the moment that the 'tideBegins to turn 'and the prophecy becomesSelf-fulfilling
In other words, BELIEVING that something bad isGoing to happen ... in this case, that you're notGoing to be attractive enough '... really makes itHAPPEN.
I thought you might enjoy a bit ofReal-life proofCan be the pursuit of all-roundExcellence I know I harp on a fair bitBeing quality and acting in a way that builds yourSelf-confidence ...
... but I could also helpMe more credence if I had a rock-solid, real-lifeExample to point to and say, 'Look! Look at whatThis guy's managed to overcome, and look at whereHe is now! '
With that in mind, let me tell you a shortThe story of someoneOwn particular physical and emotional hangups -And who now enjoys incredible success with women
His name's Sean Stephenson, and this is hisSituation: as a result of a rare bone disorder,Sean is literally the size of a six-year old(Well, that's how he describes himself, anyway)And confined to a wheelchair
For YEARS, he believed that his condition wasSuch that no woman will ever be able to feelAttraction for him
As a result,Meeting women
He could notPhysically attracted himLOOKED (nod your head hereTo you) and given the fact of his disability.
He felt like, no matter how bad he wanted aWoman, he simply will never be able to get one
For TWELVE YEARS, this frame of mind- and of course, the prophecy continued toSelf-fulfillil Women were not interested inSean: every time he felt thatFall for him, she'd turn around and say, "Sean,I'm sorryCondition. "
Finally, he managed to develop a system thatFREED HIMSELF from these limiting beliefs andLITERALLY turned his success round 180 degrees.
The fact that his physical condition isStill EXACTLY THE SAME - nothing's changed there -He now enjoys amazing things with women, to theExtent that he travels the world giving seminarsOn how to get the results you want REGARDLESSOf your looks or abilities
And of course, there is no question of settlingFor someone that's 'less than' The guy knows whoHe's genuinely attracted to, and sees to it thatThey are the women he gets
Now, if you have never been in a situation whereYou're surrounded by 15 or 20 giggling girls, andYou know that you get to buyAt the end of the night ...
... ESPECIALLY if you have not yet experiencedNothing like thisATTRACTIVE enough ...
... then you're going to want to hearNext Because despite spending twelve YEARSSquashed like a grape by his own, Sean is nowThe one with the right of 'first refusal'
Not bad for a complete personal transformation
So obviously, anyone who's ever had a limitingBelief is going to knowTo try and THINK to yourself, 'OK, I'm anAttractive guy ', but it's quite another toActually BELIEVE IT
And quite frankly, I'm not in the mood rightNow to give some advice on 'reshaping yourBeliefs' or 'doing your affirmations' It's trueThat that stuff is literally like DYNAMITE when itComes to taking care of 'attitude problems' ...
... but if you're in that mindset where youLiterallyAttractive, then you need something that canUse RIGHT NOW Tonight, if required
So first of all: a quick exercise for you
This is going to engage your LOGICAL BRAIN toCounteract the effacts of 'emotional experiences'Like negative beliefs and thoughts
What you're going to do, pan out EXACTLYWhat are you going to doReally figure out exactly what you're sayingYourself; Sit down with a pen and a piece of paperAnd that's what you believe is bothering youHere.
This is all the EMOTIONAL stuff
('I'm no good at ___', 'I'm not ___ enough',Etc.)
Now, you're going to use LOGIC to lay waste toThose beliefs
Being as objective and critical as possible,Set out to pick up the big holes in those thoughtsLiterally figure out how they could not be trueDisprove yourself however you can Figure outWhat's the situation?Think of examples, however small they seem, whenEach statement did not apply.
Once this is done, you need to REPLACE everyThose statementsThe rightQuality man
CANCEL OUT the wrongBeliefs; You need to do thatVoid where they used to be
Figure out what you like about yourself (AndBy the way ... it's OKYourself.)
For example, if you've got an issue with looks,You could decideThat's changed ...Your personality and 'inner game' to the pointWhere you can literally 'outshine' any guy in theVicinity, no matter WHAT he looks like
Whatever you are, you need to give yourselfTo feed genuine confidence How do you likeSee yourself? What do you haveThat your reality?
... and then begin to take steps to MAKE it yourReality Do what it takes
And if you want to get some hard-core information onEvery aspect of attraction with females,
by chetram nagar
The issue of WHAT OTHER PEOPLE is a bigIssue a lot of guys, and it ends up with mostOUT of doingThe things we really want to do
JustifyCruelly-perfect standards of bodily perfection,Men feel anxiety about issues like masculinity,Wit, and strength And in particular ... theAbility to be ENTERTAINING and FUNNY
There's talk about thisNeed - to showcase a razor-sharp witEngage in the kind of verbal-swordplay'One-upmanship' that a lot of guys like to foolAround with
To a certain extent, mass consumption ofPopular comedy, and the growing popularity ofMale comedians, are largely to blame for thisUnwelcome phenomenon
And it's even gotten to the stage where I'mGetting emails from guys admitting that they 'justDo not bother anymore 'trying to impress women,Because they've got the impression that femaleStandards are now
Can anybody say ... LOW SELF-CONFIDENCE?
Having said that, though, I will admmit thatThey have a point True confidence comes,After all, from accomplishments and achievementAnd if you do not have a lotOf 'what you've done', you can left twiddlingYour thumbs and wondering whether you want toBother 'competing' for the desirable women outThere
Unfortunately, this kind of thinking isLiterally a vicious cycle The moment that youGetting StartedThe moment that you start to broadcastInsecurity to anyone in the vicinity ... and ofCourse, that's the moment that the 'tideBegins to turn 'and the prophecy becomesSelf-fulfilling
In other words, BELIEVING that something bad isGoing to happen ... in this case, that you're notGoing to be attractive enough '... really makes itHAPPEN.
I thought you might enjoy a bit ofReal-life proofCan be the pursuit of all-roundExcellence I know I harp on a fair bitBeing quality and acting in a way that builds yourSelf-confidence ...
... but I could also helpMe more credence if I had a rock-solid, real-lifeExample to point to and say, 'Look! Look at whatThis guy's managed to overcome, and look at whereHe is now! '
With that in mind, let me tell you a shortThe story of someoneOwn particular physical and emotional hangups -And who now enjoys incredible success with women
His name's Sean Stephenson, and this is hisSituation: as a result of a rare bone disorder,Sean is literally the size of a six-year old(Well, that's how he describes himself, anyway)And confined to a wheelchair
For YEARS, he believed that his condition wasSuch that no woman will ever be able to feelAttraction for him
As a result,Meeting women
He could notPhysically attracted himLOOKED (nod your head hereTo you) and given the fact of his disability.
He felt like, no matter how bad he wanted aWoman, he simply will never be able to get one
For TWELVE YEARS, this frame of mind- and of course, the prophecy continued toSelf-fulfillil Women were not interested inSean: every time he felt thatFall for him, she'd turn around and say, "Sean,I'm sorryCondition. "
Finally, he managed to develop a system thatFREED HIMSELF from these limiting beliefs andLITERALLY turned his success round 180 degrees.
The fact that his physical condition isStill EXACTLY THE SAME - nothing's changed there -He now enjoys amazing things with women, to theExtent that he travels the world giving seminarsOn how to get the results you want REGARDLESSOf your looks or abilities
And of course, there is no question of settlingFor someone that's 'less than' The guy knows whoHe's genuinely attracted to, and sees to it thatThey are the women he gets
Now, if you have never been in a situation whereYou're surrounded by 15 or 20 giggling girls, andYou know that you get to buyAt the end of the night ...
... ESPECIALLY if you have not yet experiencedNothing like thisATTRACTIVE enough ...
... then you're going to want to hearNext Because despite spending twelve YEARSSquashed like a grape by his own, Sean is nowThe one with the right of 'first refusal'
Not bad for a complete personal transformation
So obviously, anyone who's ever had a limitingBelief is going to knowTo try and THINK to yourself, 'OK, I'm anAttractive guy ', but it's quite another toActually BELIEVE IT
And quite frankly, I'm not in the mood rightNow to give some advice on 'reshaping yourBeliefs' or 'doing your affirmations' It's trueThat that stuff is literally like DYNAMITE when itComes to taking care of 'attitude problems' ...
... but if you're in that mindset where youLiterallyAttractive, then you need something that canUse RIGHT NOW Tonight, if required
So first of all: a quick exercise for you
This is going to engage your LOGICAL BRAIN toCounteract the effacts of 'emotional experiences'Like negative beliefs and thoughts
What you're going to do, pan out EXACTLYWhat are you going to doReally figure out exactly what you're sayingYourself; Sit down with a pen and a piece of paperAnd that's what you believe is bothering youHere.
This is all the EMOTIONAL stuff
('I'm no good at ___', 'I'm not ___ enough',Etc.)
Now, you're going to use LOGIC to lay waste toThose beliefs
Being as objective and critical as possible,Set out to pick up the big holes in those thoughtsLiterally figure out how they could not be trueDisprove yourself however you can Figure outWhat's the situation?Think of examples, however small they seem, whenEach statement did not apply.
Once this is done, you need to REPLACE everyThose statementsThe rightQuality man
CANCEL OUT the wrongBeliefs; You need to do thatVoid where they used to be
Figure out what you like about yourself (AndBy the way ... it's OKYourself.)
For example, if you've got an issue with looks,You could decideThat's changed ...Your personality and 'inner game' to the pointWhere you can literally 'outshine' any guy in theVicinity, no matter WHAT he looks like
Whatever you are, you need to give yourselfTo feed genuine confidence How do you likeSee yourself? What do you haveThat your reality?
... and then begin to take steps to MAKE it yourReality Do what it takes
And if you want to get some hard-core information onEvery aspect of attraction with females,
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