What If You're Short & She Likes Tall Guys?
What If You're Short & She Likes Tall Guys?
by chetram nagar
You have noticed that in this part of the
World we talk about a lot
And I'm sure you've heard it before: if
You want to be a man, and if you want
To enjoy KILLER success with the ladies,
'Confidence' is the key ingredient that converts
Daydreams in reality ALL the famous' lady
Killers' to the movies are
Supremely confident - and that's no coincidence
If this is something you want to get handled
For yourself, then check this out:
... and interestingly enough, 'confidence' justHappens to be the subject of today's newsletter
The way I see it, confidence is one of thoseThings that women often do not think aboutAttracted to Ask a womanDesirableLike height, humor, and a good career ... but she'llAlmost never say anything aboutCONFIDENCE.
However, 'confidence' is one of those'Intangible' qualities that women do not tend toTHINK about you having ... but they INSTANTLYPERCEIVE Whether you have it or not And whetherThat trust is present or notWhich is EVERYTHING ELSE?
So a woman who likesGuys would THINK that she only wants guys likeThat.
But really, if she were to meet a guy whoCompleted that criterion, but who did not ALSO haveCONFIDENCE, she will likely feelATTRACTION for him whatsoever
And that's when she'll start saying thingsLike, 'I do not know, he looks great on paper ... butI'm just not feeling it. '
Here's the interesting part.
If you are a confident guy - meaning, you haveSTRENGTHOverly much to you what a woman thinks of you -Then it LITERALLY CASES TO MATTER, for her ANDFor you, whether you're tall, short, rich, poor,Or whether you exterminate bugs for a living.
(No offense to exterminators ... they're goodGuys too.)
When you're able to free yourself from theShackles of CARING about WHAT WOMAN THINK OF YOU,A radical and quantum shift occurs as a naturalBYPRODUCT of this attitude
Namely, that:
- You instantly maximize your masculinity
- YouValidation-seeking
- You become able to 'get' the types of womenYou want, even if they are profess to like qualitiesIn men
For example, a lot of people are put off when aWoman announces point-blank that she likes guysWho have a certain qualityNot Common 'likes' include muscles and height
Both of these things are a big dealMost guys because they are not easy to changeThere is not a lotComposition or your height - at least, notQuickly
When a woman says something like that, whatShould you do
Does that mean that you have now 'no chance'With her?
Believe it or not: the answer is NO. This is aPrime opportunity for youHard-core leadership and PROVE to her that,Actually, you know better than SHE does
And what you know is, of course, that it's theFEELINGS she gets from guys who have thoseQualities that she really wants ... not just theQualities themselves
What is she sayingSTRONG and MASCULINE MAN
So here's my suggestion: that you STOP caringAbout what women sayy want The bottom lineIs, they just do not knowHappens. There are flat-out unattractive menEverywhere with beautiful womenAnd they gotPERSONALITY.
If you can make a certain wayBy YOUR strength of personality, then you canLiterally overcome any predilection for materialQualities whatever whatever
Accepting thisFiguring out an equation that most guys just DO NOTGET
There are 3 ways of looking at it.
Equation 1: caring about what women want + NOTHaving 'desirable qualities' that womenConsciously want = ongoing LACK of success.
Equation 2: caring about what women think +HAVING 'desirable qualities' that womenConsciously want = some initial success that'sInevitably poisoned by a weakness of characterDesire for validation, followed by a long slumpIn tepid mediocrity
Equation 3: Not caring about what women think +Having the desirable qualities OR NOT having them =Radical, ongoing success with the women that YOUDESIRE
Clearly, the mitigating factor is whether youDo you want to prioritize whatYOU THINK first and foremost It all boils down toSelf-esteem
The way I see it, confidence is one of thoseThings that women often do not think aboutAttracted to Ask a womanDesirableLike height, humor, and a good career ... but she'llAlmost never say anything aboutCONFIDENCE.
However, 'confidence' is one of those'Intangible' qualities that women do not tend toTHINK about you having ... but they INSTANTLYPERCEIVE Whether you have it or not And whetherThat trust is present or notWhich is EVERYTHING ELSE?
So a woman who likesGuys would THINK that she only wants guys likeThat.
But really, if she were to meet a guy whoCompleted that criterion, but who did not ALSO haveCONFIDENCE, she will likely feelATTRACTION for him whatsoever
And that's when she'll start saying thingsLike, 'I do not know, he looks great on paper ... butI'm just not feeling it. '
Here's the interesting part.
If you are a confident guy - meaning, you haveSTRENGTHOverly much to you what a woman thinks of you -Then it LITERALLY CASES TO MATTER, for her ANDFor you, whether you're tall, short, rich, poor,Or whether you exterminate bugs for a living.
(No offense to exterminators ... they're goodGuys too.)
When you're able to free yourself from theShackles of CARING about WHAT WOMAN THINK OF YOU,A radical and quantum shift occurs as a naturalBYPRODUCT of this attitude
Namely, that:
- You instantly maximize your masculinity
- YouValidation-seeking
- You become able to 'get' the types of womenYou want, even if they are profess to like qualitiesIn men
For example, a lot of people are put off when aWoman announces point-blank that she likes guysWho have a certain qualityNot Common 'likes' include muscles and height
Both of these things are a big dealMost guys because they are not easy to changeThere is not a lotComposition or your height - at least, notQuickly
When a woman says something like that, whatShould you do
Does that mean that you have now 'no chance'With her?
Believe it or not: the answer is NO. This is aPrime opportunity for youHard-core leadership and PROVE to her that,Actually, you know better than SHE does
And what you know is, of course, that it's theFEELINGS she gets from guys who have thoseQualities that she really wants ... not just theQualities themselves
What is she sayingSTRONG and MASCULINE MAN
So here's my suggestion: that you STOP caringAbout what women sayy want The bottom lineIs, they just do not knowHappens. There are flat-out unattractive menEverywhere with beautiful womenAnd they gotPERSONALITY.
If you can make a certain wayBy YOUR strength of personality, then you canLiterally overcome any predilection for materialQualities whatever whatever
Accepting thisFiguring out an equation that most guys just DO NOTGET
There are 3 ways of looking at it.
Equation 1: caring about what women want + NOTHaving 'desirable qualities' that womenConsciously want = ongoing LACK of success.
Equation 2: caring about what women think +HAVING 'desirable qualities' that womenConsciously want = some initial success that'sInevitably poisoned by a weakness of characterDesire for validation, followed by a long slumpIn tepid mediocrity
Equation 3: Not caring about what women think +Having the desirable qualities OR NOT having them =Radical, ongoing success with the women that YOUDESIRE
Clearly, the mitigating factor is whether youDo you want to prioritize whatYOU THINK first and foremost It all boils down toSelf-esteem
Caring too much about what women think of you(Translation: validation-seeking) is a BENCHMARKOf 'unmanly men' who want to be went to women ...And who might also have those qualities that lookGood 'on paper' ... but who can never seem toCONVERT those 'on paper' qualities in ACTUALTANGIBLE SUCCESS with women
Women like manly men, right? Meaning, they likeMen who are strong, in control, and who do not begAnd crawl for approval
But many othersIntimidateAttractive ... to the extent that they actually LOSEWhatever veneer of 'coolness' and confidence thatThey usually possess, and instant accedeAuthority and right-of-refusal to HER
And this is when the switch is marked'Attraction' in her head gets turned permanentlyOFF, because you are instantly perceived as noLong being ableNeeds in a possible partner ... namely, that you'reA MAN
You've gotta MAN UP
So ... what about looks? What if you genuinelyThink that you are an unattractive guy?
Something that puts a big dent in theOf the peopleDo not understandKind of guy
So they end up thinkingACT confident, without really FEELING it.
Of course, this particular approach tends toLead to a big brick wall, because really greatWomen can sniff out inauthenticity ... and not onlyThat, but theyTogether, and figure that, if you've got 'act'ConfidentYou're not really genuinely confident ...
... i.e. There should be something 'off' about you
The idea that you're not PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVETo have a lot of guys get hung-upOver
And I think most of themFeeling 'average', or even LESS-than-average,Looks-wise ... if it was not for those damnGood-looking guys
Or if they did not want to overhear a couple ofSecretaries at the office water-cooler dribblingOver how 'buff' some guy at the gym was
It's this kind of stuffThat LOOKSWith women ... and it's what makes them feel, 'I'mUgly So I may as well not even bother. '
Bottom line is,That they wantTo have heads and have itEASY with women
And yeah, it's true Looks definitably help
BUT ... they do not matter NEARLY as much as youThink they do - or in the WAY that you think theyDo
Let me explain.
It goes without saying that you've got itThe best you've got But that's obvious
What's not so obvious is that, as long asYou're worth itSomething, has got some personal style going on,And are meeting basic standards of hygiene, yourActual LOOKS are not important
Here's the deal: APPEARANCE matters ... LOOKS doNOT.
See the difference?
Women like manly men, right? Meaning, they likeMen who are strong, in control, and who do not begAnd crawl for approval
But many othersIntimidateAttractive ... to the extent that they actually LOSEWhatever veneer of 'coolness' and confidence thatThey usually possess, and instant accedeAuthority and right-of-refusal to HER
And this is when the switch is marked'Attraction' in her head gets turned permanentlyOFF, because you are instantly perceived as noLong being ableNeeds in a possible partner ... namely, that you'reA MAN
You've gotta MAN UP
So ... what about looks? What if you genuinelyThink that you are an unattractive guy?
Something that puts a big dent in theOf the peopleDo not understandKind of guy
So they end up thinkingACT confident, without really FEELING it.
Of course, this particular approach tends toLead to a big brick wall, because really greatWomen can sniff out inauthenticity ... and not onlyThat, but theyTogether, and figure that, if you've got 'act'ConfidentYou're not really genuinely confident ...
... i.e. There should be something 'off' about you
The idea that you're not PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVETo have a lot of guys get hung-upOver
And I think most of themFeeling 'average', or even LESS-than-average,Looks-wise ... if it was not for those damnGood-looking guys
Or if they did not want to overhear a couple ofSecretaries at the office water-cooler dribblingOver how 'buff' some guy at the gym was
It's this kind of stuffThat LOOKSWith women ... and it's what makes them feel, 'I'mUgly So I may as well not even bother. '
Bottom line is,That they wantTo have heads and have itEASY with women
And yeah, it's true Looks definitably help
BUT ... they do not matter NEARLY as much as youThink they do - or in the WAY that you think theyDo
Let me explain.
It goes without saying that you've got itThe best you've got But that's obvious
What's not so obvious is that, as long asYou're worth itSomething, has got some personal style going on,And are meeting basic standards of hygiene, yourActual LOOKS are not important
Here's the deal: APPEARANCE matters ... LOOKS doNOT.
See the difference?
And of course, APPEARANCE matters as it'sA benchmark of how well you treat yourself IfYou're slopping around without aesthetic careIn the world, that's going to broadcast the ideaThat you can not (or will not) take care of yourself ...And if you can not take care of yourself, chancesAre youLife
In other words, you're not a 'together' kindaGuy
It's hopefully becoming clear hereAUTHENTICITY AND CONFIDENCE are REALLY the issuesAt hand
This is what I mean
If you areYou happen to FEEL GREAT that way, and because youRespect and value yourself - rather than as a'Tool' to get more attention from women - thenChances are, top-notch women are going toRecognize that inherent confidence in you and beDRAWN to it.
And then, they'll be charmed by the 'cherry onTop 'personal-style thing you've got ALSO got goingOn
Of course, the reverse is also true. If you'reTrying to useWomen from noticingThat's your PERSONALITY is not really hot, thenThat will be duly noted as well - and you may findThat the womenWho are 'fixated' on exteriors
Your motivations are like a 'set point' for theRESULTS that you end up getting
Men tend to be pretty visual creatures We needA womanWe can feel attraction for her So it makes sense- at least on a logical basis - for us to holdOurselves to the same standards
But here's the deal: women do not really careAbout looks asThey do
Even if they sayParticular way, it's really what's underLooks that counts: namely, the ability to beSELF-VALIDATED To beLike you'reOvercompensate for any perceived 'flaws'
Women are attracted, deep down, to men whoARE NOT SEEKING THEME APPROVAL They want a strong,In-control MAN
In real-life terms, this means that they do notWant a guy who is worried about,Or whose faith has a big ol 'dent in itBecause he's balding on top or shorter than he'dLike to be
And they do not want a guy who comments on his'Bad points' or ask them if they think he'sAttractive or says, as she runs her hand over herStomach, 'I'm doing sit-ups and it will be flat inA month. '
Because this stuff all SCREAMS 'VALIDATIONNEEDED HERE! '
If you have somethingYourself ... just be COOL about it Do not mentionIt. Do not point it out Do not apologize for it.And DEFINITELY do not ask her if she 'minds' or ifIt 'bothers her'
If she's with you, it does not bother her Do notMake it an issue
If you've got confidence in yourself, and youIf you likeHave some pride in yourself and your own worth ...Specifically, as if you have some VALUE ... thenYou're definitely being a MAN
You're leading. And that's a good thing
So ... what if you have some Serious hangupsAbout the way you look? What if you've got oozingAcne, a bald patch that you're hideouslySelf-conscious about, or Coke-bottle glasses heldTogether with a band-aid over the nose?
Well, first of all, let me remind you thatConfidence is a great extentIn yourself, which means taking good care ofYourself inside and out If you're not actingA guy who treats you with worth, you can notExpect
So yeah Take that insecurity as the necessaryFoot in the butt that you need to do somethingAbout any serious external 'issues' that you'reHung up about Go see a dermatologist, considerGetting Lasik, and shave your head (balding is notOptional but shaven-headed is ... oh and by the way,It REEKS OF confidence.)
And one other thing: I'm suggesting these'Developments' do notThings to be greatDefinitely will help.)
But let's talk turkey Really, why sabotageYour success
And secondly, let's forget about VisibleBeing a 'high value' guy, which means that youShould never underestimate the importance ofTreating YOURSELF like you're worthInside and out
And thirdly ... most guys find it very hard toGet past these 'issues' FOR THEMSELVES It's notThe acne or the glasses or the bald spot thatTurns women off ... it's the CONFIDENCE ISSUES thatThese things give them
In other words, you're not a 'together' kindaGuy
It's hopefully becoming clear hereAUTHENTICITY AND CONFIDENCE are REALLY the issuesAt hand
This is what I mean
If you areYou happen to FEEL GREAT that way, and because youRespect and value yourself - rather than as a'Tool' to get more attention from women - thenChances are, top-notch women are going toRecognize that inherent confidence in you and beDRAWN to it.
And then, they'll be charmed by the 'cherry onTop 'personal-style thing you've got ALSO got goingOn
Of course, the reverse is also true. If you'reTrying to useWomen from noticingThat's your PERSONALITY is not really hot, thenThat will be duly noted as well - and you may findThat the womenWho are 'fixated' on exteriors
Your motivations are like a 'set point' for theRESULTS that you end up getting
Men tend to be pretty visual creatures We needA womanWe can feel attraction for her So it makes sense- at least on a logical basis - for us to holdOurselves to the same standards
But here's the deal: women do not really careAbout looks asThey do
Even if they sayParticular way, it's really what's underLooks that counts: namely, the ability to beSELF-VALIDATED To beLike you'reOvercompensate for any perceived 'flaws'
Women are attracted, deep down, to men whoARE NOT SEEKING THEME APPROVAL They want a strong,In-control MAN
In real-life terms, this means that they do notWant a guy who is worried about,Or whose faith has a big ol 'dent in itBecause he's balding on top or shorter than he'dLike to be
And they do not want a guy who comments on his'Bad points' or ask them if they think he'sAttractive or says, as she runs her hand over herStomach, 'I'm doing sit-ups and it will be flat inA month. '
Because this stuff all SCREAMS 'VALIDATIONNEEDED HERE! '
If you have somethingYourself ... just be COOL about it Do not mentionIt. Do not point it out Do not apologize for it.And DEFINITELY do not ask her if she 'minds' or ifIt 'bothers her'
If she's with you, it does not bother her Do notMake it an issue
If you've got confidence in yourself, and youIf you likeHave some pride in yourself and your own worth ...Specifically, as if you have some VALUE ... thenYou're definitely being a MAN
You're leading. And that's a good thing
So ... what if you have some Serious hangupsAbout the way you look? What if you've got oozingAcne, a bald patch that you're hideouslySelf-conscious about, or Coke-bottle glasses heldTogether with a band-aid over the nose?
Well, first of all, let me remind you thatConfidence is a great extentIn yourself, which means taking good care ofYourself inside and out If you're not actingA guy who treats you with worth, you can notExpect
So yeah Take that insecurity as the necessaryFoot in the butt that you need to do somethingAbout any serious external 'issues' that you'reHung up about Go see a dermatologist, considerGetting Lasik, and shave your head (balding is notOptional but shaven-headed is ... oh and by the way,It REEKS OF confidence.)
And one other thing: I'm suggesting these'Developments' do notThings to be greatDefinitely will help.)
But let's talk turkey Really, why sabotageYour success
And secondly, let's forget about VisibleBeing a 'high value' guy, which means that youShould never underestimate the importance ofTreating YOURSELF like you're worthInside and out
And thirdly ... most guys find it very hard toGet past these 'issues' FOR THEMSELVES It's notThe acne or the glasses or the bald spot thatTurns women off ... it's the CONFIDENCE ISSUES thatThese things give them
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